My husband is very understanding and gentle, and we do oral or manual stimulation, but I miss the intimacy of penetrative sex. Is there anything else we can do to avoid injury? It has reduced our sex life greatly, as it makes me nervous to initiate anything. This has only been a problem with my husband, not previous partners. That is the only advice I have ever found online and I am too embarrassed to ask my GP for help. We use silicone lubricant ( water-based dried up too quickly) and avoid certain positions, to no avail.
My husband has a big penis and every time we have sex my vulva tears.
